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You Don’t Get to Decide When You Die – Live Accordingly

These are some rough sketches that my dad did for me. I think he’s an incredibly talented artist who’s creativity has been oppressed by other responsibilities. I hope to incorporate his artwork into this blog and eventually offer prints and original paintings for sale to help keep you motivated through your hardships. Whether it’s making it through the day, growing a business, getting out of debt, or creating the life that you have always wanted. Or a combination of a bunch of things.

We waste a lot of time. Doing something tomorrow or one day turns into doing it never. We think we have a lot of time and that we’ll live for many more years but the truth is, we don’t really know. We don’t know when we’ll die. Part of what makes life exciting is not knowing the answer to that question. But it also makes us take a lot of things for granted. We don’t really live as if we’re dying.

But we are. We die a little more each day until our time is up. Don’t be afraid to live the life you’ve always wanted to live until its too late. Life is for living, not for working. There’s more to life than spending most of your life working in a building being surrounded by people that you probably didn’t choose to be around. You should spend more time with friends and family and not your annoying co-workers who don’t add value to your life.

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Where is Your Current Path Leading You?

Life is linear.

It’s full of cause and effect.

Everything happens for a reason.

What you put in is what you’ll get out.

 

I ask myself the following questions everyday when I’m on my lunch break at work:

  • Why am I here?
  • What am I doing this for?
  • Do I want to do this for the rest of my life?

I can’t answer the first 2 questions yet, but the last question is always answered by a resounding “NO WAY.”

I had a meeting with my manager last week and he said that I can do whatever I want within the company because I definitely have the skill set to do so. I take that as a great compliment but do I really want to do whatever I want within the company? Do I want to turn into him?

My best guess is that he’s in his sixties. I know he has gout which affects him greatly. I know he’s on salary so he gets the same wage regardless of how many hours he works. He’s working 50 hours next week which means he opens and closes everyday.

I hate working 35 hours a week and opening and closing the same day twice a week.

What he’s doing isn’t called living; it’s called working way too fuckin much. I often wonder, “why is he doing it?” or “why can’t he retire yet?”

Everyone I work with is miserable. One guy keeps on having kids because he gets 3 months of paternity leave. I wish I was joking…

Two other people constantly wonder if they’ll get fired soon. Another is trying to get a job somewhere else. Another is around 50 and is still living paycheck to paycheck.

I don’t want to turn into these people. I don’t want to live to work and work to live. I want to enjoy living, meet interesting people, and experience incredible things throughout the world. I don’t want to wait until I “retire” either.

I won’t have the opportunity with this job. I won’t have the time. I might have the money but I won’t have the health.

How about you? Where will you be in a few years if you continue on the same path? In 10 years?

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If you’re scared shitless at that question like I am, stay tuned to the blog. I’m getting everything together to do a complete relaunch at the beginning of next year. Until then, stay positive and keep moving forward.

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Reflections of Someone Who Triumphed Through Difficult Times

It’s times like this, usually at night before I go to bed, that I have some time to reflect and really think about things.

This past year was the exact opposite of the year before. I hit rock bottom last year. I lost a job, my parents fired me, I broke up with my girlfriend, moved out of our apartment, lost most of my furniture, and lost my mind. Last October to December was rough.

I was fortunate enough to get a last-minute plane ticket to Germany and spend a month with friends and family that I hadn’t seen for 5 years. That was such a great time in my life. I met new people and did new things. I came back refreshed and with a new outlook.

The spring was full of bullshit encounters with my ex trying to get my furniture back. I’m happy to say that those scars have finally healed.

The bubble burst on our business and sales ran dry basically overnight. I had to find a job…any job. In the slowest recovering region in regards to the recession, that wasn’t easy.

Also, because of that, I had no money to go to school in Chicago where I was going to fulfill a life-long dream of playing college soccer. I spent the previous 2 years training and trying out for professional teams but that didn’t quite work out and this was going to be the next best thing.

Instead of being in Chicago meeting my teammates, I was a newspaper delivery dude for 2 months. I worked 2:30-4:30 am, 7 days a week making about $150 a week. Deduct gas and wear and tear on my car, and it was more like $110. Ugh.

I was fortunate to get a job at a Mexican restaurant as a “cook.” I spent most of my time washing dishes. The restaurant was in turmoil and we got a lot of new cooks and a new back-of-house manager. I never got more than 20 hours a week. At $8/hr, it just wasn’t cutting it.

Through my mom I was really fortunate to land an interview with a big bank. A month later, after my background check and all that was completed, I was hired.

Wearing a tie to work and being clean-shaven was something that was totally new to me.

About 2 months into the gig as a 20-hour part-timer, the girl who was hired along with myself decided to quit without notice. I stepped up and took over her hours. My hours went to 25, then 32, and now 36 hours a week. We had a meeting the other morning and someone asked about the position and my managers said that they didn’t put out a request for someone new because they gave those hours to me. I guess they’re happy with my performance.

My mom talked to her branch manager and he said that my managers can do what they want with the hours so if they have someone who seems capable and they want to keep them in their branch, they’ll do whatever they can to keep them.

I guess this is my “trial period.” As long as I keep on doing what I’m doing, I’m pretty confident that I’ll be going full-time soon. It’s almost unheard of for someone to go full-time after being with the company for such a short time but I think I’m really in the right place at the right time. I’m extremely fortunate but I believe that all the bullshit that I’ve been through has brought me to this place and that good things come to those who keep on fighting through hell. Along with the hours, there’s a good possibility that I’ll get a raise.

I don’t mean to brag or boast; I hope this inspires people who are going through hell to keep on going because it paid off for me. Crazier things have happened. Don’t give up; that’s usually when things start turning themselves around. Just when you’re about to give up, something crazy like this can happen.

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17 Things I Should Have Known at 17

This post was inspired by Julien Smith’s post titled 20 Things I Should Have Known at 20. Awesome food for thought so check it out.

5 years ago, I was 17 and in my freshman year in college. Damn, how things have changed! This was before our business, before I tried out for professional soccer teams, and before I’ve met so many incredible people around the world by doing what I love. This isn’t directly related to running a micro business, but a lot of these lessons can be used in running one.

 

  1. Your GPA in school has no direct correlation to how successful you’ll be in life.
  2. The college you go to has no direct correlation to how successful you’ll be in life. It’s no big deal if you don’t go to college.
  3. It’s about who you know, not what you know. Street smarts get you further than book smarts.
  4. It’s not a good thing when your credit card limit constantly increases.
  5. You probably won’t be friends with the friends you had in high school 5 years after high school.
  6. You probably won’t marry your high school sweetheart.
  7. Potential is a great thing to have but eventually you have to do something with it.
  8. Don’t do “it” just because everyone else is. Have your own opinion.
  9. Do as much as possible when you’re young. Play as many sports and join as many organizations as possible.
  10. What you write on Facebook, stays on Facebook.
  11. They say that high school is the best 4 years of your life but that’s only true if you’re proactive and make it that way.
  12. He who provides the alcohol will be popular.
  13. He who provides the alcohol is probably only popular because he provides the alcohol.
  14. You get away with a lot more when you’re young, so take advantage of that. Do dumb shit and learn from it.
  15. Don’t let the dumb shit you did in high school scar you for the rest of your life.
  16. High school crushes are awesome. You know what’s better, actually having a girl/boy friend instead. Ask the person out.
  17. Don’t break up with a boyfriend or girlfriend and keep on going back out with them. This is a great way to become emotionally unstable. Once it doesn’t work, it will never work.

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What Does it Mean to “Be Realistic?”

I’m trying something new starting today! Instead of numbering each Thought-Provoking Question of the Day, the subject will be the actual TPQD. This will hopefully cut down on the monotony of generic topic titles…

Today’s thought-provoking question of the day is:

  • What does it mean to be “realistic?”

There is no such thing as being “realistic.” It’s just an excuse. An excuse to not step out of your comfort zone, to conform even though you don’t know why, and it’s an excuse to give up on your dreams. Screw that noise. We only have one life and it scares me shitless to think that I’m wasting just  a minute of it. I want to add value to the world instead of money in some corporation’s bank. I want to live a life where I make my own rules and I want to help you do the same!

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TPQD #9

Today’s thought-provoking question of the day is:

  • Why do we categorize people and things?

I think it has something to do with fear. We fear things that we don’t know or are unfamiliar with so we put them in the same group as things we are familiar with so we are less scared of them.

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61 Ways to Ensure that You Live a Miserable Existence

Do the following and you’ll be sure to lead a miserable, unfulfilled life!

 

  1. Settle.
  2. Stay in a miserable relationship because you’ve settled, don’t like confrontation, and/or don’t want to hurt the other person.
  3. Let someone else manage your money.
  4. Never take responsibility for the bad things that happen to you.
  5. Depend on someone else for your income.
  6. Take out lots of student loans because “everyone is doing it.”
  7. Conform.
  8. Never read books.
  9. Go to work, eat dinner, watch, tv, sleep, repeat.
  10. Say you always want to do something but never actually try to do it.
  11. Know that you should eat healthier and should exercise more but keep on eating fast food and sitting on the couch.
  12. Let fear control your life.
  13. Use money you don’t have to buy things that you don’t actually need.
  14. Keep working at a dead-end job that you hate so you have money to pay off your debt and pay for things you don’t actually need.
  15. Let advertisements control your emotions and cash flow.
  16. Never question authority.
  17. Depend on someone or something else for your happiness.
  18. Never chase your dreams.
  19. Never talk to that attractive girl or guy.
  20. Never try something new.
  21. Never have your own opinion.
  22. Do everything that the guy on Mad Money tells you to do.
  23. Believe everything the media tells you.
  24. Talk about changing but never change.
  25. Talk about starting your own business but never do so.
  26. Say you never have time but never actually try to make more time.
  27. Being more concerned about others’ decisions instead of your own.
  28. Accept answers such as “because I say so” or “because that’s the way it’s always been done.”
  29. Never leave your comfort zone.
  30. Feel sorry for yourself.
  31. Let your emotions get the best of you.
  32. Give up.
  33. Marry for money.
  34. Don’t have any goals.
  35. Don’t travel.
  36. Be close-minded.
  37. Think you’ve “finally made it” and quit working hard.
  38. Compare your life to others.
  39. Think you’re not good enough.
  40. Be an attention whore.
  41. Never save money for a rainy day.
  42. Never try to learn another language.
  43. Think you can just do it tomorrow.
  44. Never prioritize.
  45. Stop learning.
  46. Stop being curious.
  47. Never question others’ intentions.
  48. Gossip.
  49. Be around people who are negative and bring you down.
  50. Sleep all day.
  51. Worry about what others think of you.
  52. Never volunteer or donate money.
  53. Hold grudges.
  54. Work ALL the time.
  55. Don’t spend a lot of time with friends or family.
  56. Put money before relationships.
  57. Don’t spend some time by yourself.
  58. Don’t meditate.
  59. Don’t reflect or evaluate good and bad decisions.
  60. Don’t learn how to cook.
  61. Make money your number one priority.

Feel free to add anything to the list!

 

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